I consider myself a pretty easy going laid back individual and can get along with almost anyone. As I get older I realize that there are just some personalities that I'd rather not deal with (whining, complaining, bragging). I think my tolerance level for idiocy is waning.
One recent type of personality that has presented itself is of the extremist variety. Examples follow:
1) If this person is sick, or has sick children, they are the sickest of all. Other pains and sicknesses are no match.
2) Oh, a broken leg? You can bet their leg was shattered in 60 different places, and required the surgeon general to fly in to give recommendations.
3) A research presentation for school? That's right! Their professor is the hardest professor within the state and the research is the most demanding.
4) New computer. They own the fastest, the best, and the greatest on the market!
5) Cough? They've got whooping cough. Pox? They've got small pox. New restaurant? They've eaten there 65 times within the last month, and will gladly give you a review. Service at a restaurant is sub par? Don't worry. They are quick to gripe, complain, and make someone's life extremely miserable.
Even though my tolerance is waning, I still understand that I will always have to work (at church, school, home) that are different. After some thought I decided to compiled a list of ways to deal with annoying character traits.
Don't take a difficult person's behavior to the heart. Their taxing behavior is consistent and affects many people with whom they come in contact.
Don't fight back (or even try to beat them at their own game). That is just as annoying and immature as the trait in question.
Don't try to change them. The only change that should occur is one’s response to a certain behavior.
Do look for the lesson. What are you supposed to learn from this person?
Do surround yourself with people that you are compatible with and can restore positive energy.
What else can you add?
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Ay, you're wise beyond your years, lass. lol
Do I detect a hint of sarcasm? In this case I would refer to Rule #2.
• Don't fight back (or even try to beat them at their own game). That is just as annoying and immature as the trait in question.
:O)
Yep....I have relative that is like this....He in fact inspired me to write this post. http://gracefulthreads.blogspot.com/2009/02/narcisism.html
Your right about not taking it personal and ot fighting back. I try to avoid...
Oh, I didn't know that you knew the same people that I'm acquainted with. LOL
I've ran into a few of these people. Wish I hadn't!
ahh, the wonderful hyperbolic people of the world. fun times.
my method: Do practice the art of smile and nod.
Oh, dear! This is an area in which I struggle - - -dealing with whiners and idiots. I have decided not to waste time by responding to their idiocy. Some people will just never learn.
There's a very old saying, that goes something like, "If you can't beat 'em, join em'." Hahahahaha! JUST kidding....
I know what you mean, but one of the things you can do is just laugh. Try to look for the humor in the situation; sometimes it's hard, but if you look at it through the eyes of humor, it can be quite hilarious at times. I've tried to guess in my mind what they'll say next, or how they'll respond to my comments and it's great.
Just a tip, if you're about to go crazy.
(Hopefully you're not having to deal with too much of that, since it inspired you to write a post! Yikes! =)
Graceful Threads: I went to your site! You have many insightful posts. Thanks for commenting.
KHopper: HA! I'm sure we DO know the same people. Lucky us!
Jolene: You can say that again. Unfortunately, these are people that I am around on a consistent basis. yuck.
Jen: Smile and nod. Hey! I'm a pro!
Sis. A: Plenty o' prayer is a necessity.
Janell: This is the road I take 95%of the time. Along with Jen's smile and nod, I add extra helpings of humor.
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